My brother just got married. And I just learned a big lesson about gossips.

People love to talk about things they think they know especially when you are putting yourself out of your comfort zone.

Through this point of view, you can be in one of these two sides, the hustler putting him or her self out there or you can be the spectator. These two are just stages that we turn on and off through our lives. There is no good or bad side as people in social media try so hard to make you think with all of these YouTubers, influencers, or entrepreneurs showing off there. In reality, these people are really uncommon and they go through demanding situations and challenges for years to achieve success. And also, as a spectator, you usually don't go through that stage without learning one or two things about life.

But you can actually do bad things on any of these sides. For the spectator, one of the worst things you can do is gossip and criticize the other side. This is one of the only ways you will not learn anything from others and you are even more likely to stay on the spectator side, without improvement, for a longer period.

Coming back to my brother, he is the type of person that I would call "a trigger person", he is always cheering people and making them start things, sometimes forgetting the part of consistency after that, but he is great motivating everyone around (Maybe "Cheerleader" would be another way to call him). So, he took his own advice and he made the decision to follow love even in times of Coronavirus (that would make a great title for a book).

And yeah, as you can imagine, friends, family, social media, and many more started to criticize his decision. I heard my family talking about him and his girl, and to be sincere I started to talk too. 

That's one of the nasty things about gossiping, it spreads faster than fire and it's a smooth path to follow and fall in the mistake that is so unproductive and harmful.

Well, he finally did it, gorgeous ceremony, great cake, beautiful bride, and yes, just like 10 people, all with masks, so don't worry. But, after the emotion of the moment, I realize something. People are congratulating him instead of talking about it in a bad way. 

The gossips are gone like the fog after sunrise, my family is genuinely happy about him and wishing him the best because he is already out there and the good feelings for him are way greater than any resentment or displeasure about it.

So, "Moraleja" is the Spanish word that we use for a moral message that we take from a story. So the Moraleja on this story would be:

Go for it! do whatever you want and don't worry what people will say. In the wise words of Ryan Gosling in La la land "Pishicaca" is what they think about your ideas, decisions, or actions.

 Remember my brother's story and understand that people will talk until you are out there doing YOUR stuff and the people that really care for you will help you and encourage you in any step of the journey. 

And just as important as this, if you are in the spectator side don't discourage people with your words as these are really powerful, instead, advise them if you are able to, say encouraging words if you are great for that or in the case that you really don't have good things to say, just don't say a thing.

It's way harder than it sounds  (I am still really bad at this, but I'm trying) but we can try together as this is really important not only for your improvement but a few words can be the trigger for the people that matters to you to start something great.

By the way, don't let love die in times of Corona, we can do small things like this (not a wedding but cheering people) and keep the spark alive. Just try it out!